letters to our daughters – may

This is my eighth month writing letters to Abby…
My wonderful friends and I  are writing letters — letters to express our love, talk through our struggles, and create a memory for our daughters.

Check out previous month’s letters

Please visit my friend, Sarah, next, and read her May letter to her sweet daughter

dear

Time is moving at an alarming rate.  April and May have been so incredibly busy and I have found myself going through an entire day without sitting to just spend time with you.  That’s something I’m forcing from this day on – no matter how many projects I have going on, to just simply be with you.  This is your last week of preschool and I’m not quite sure how we are here already.  Your ‘final’ bulletin board went up outside your classroom, announcing your school for next year.  I got teared up and even telling Daddy about it, tears came to my eyes.  You are scared, you’ve told me.  You haven’t said it in those words, but you’ve mentioned that you’d rather not “learn to read” and to stay at school with your teachers and friends… there were a few tears involved.   However, it’s time for the next step.  Just a few short months away and you will begin Kindergarten.  A little fish in a big school.  I’m going to have to pull out my bravest face because I will most certainly be an emotional mama.  You are ready, sweetiepie.  Completely ready.

love mom

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letters to our daughters – april

This is my seventh month writing letters to Abby…
My wonderful friends and I  are writing letters — letters to express our love, talk through our struggles, and create a memory for our daughters.

Check out previous month’s letters

Please visit my friend, Kellie, next, and read her April letter to her sweet daughter

dear

Every single month you are growing and changing at an enormous rate.  This month, you have decided that you would like to dress yourself.  On Saturday morning you came rushing in, completely dressed, announcing that “TODAY IS A YELLOW DAY!”  The ‘pattern’ day was one of your more interesting ones, for sure.  You claim that you feel like “such a big girl” when you do this.

Slowly, you are becoming a kid instead of a small child.  There are many days that you sit on the couch and draw for hours.  The drawings are so incredibly intricate and every detail is just so.  My pens have been disappearing at an alarming rate and we have come across piles of them in your baskets.  Pen, marker, paint and glue are constantly covering your hands and there is typically some sort of color on your cheek or nose from a marker that got loose.

love mom

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letters to our daughters- january 2014

This is my fourth month of writing letters to Abby…
My wonderful friends and I  are writing letters — letters to express our love, talk through our struggles, and create a memory for our daughters.

Check out previous month’s letters

dear
I need you to know, and want you to know, that I am thankful for you every single day of your life. Being a mom is tough sometimes, and while you may understand this if you decide to have children, it’s impossible to fully understand until you conceive your first baby. See, before you, I was Melissa.  I liked to decorate and design, was an elementary school teacher, and enjoyed dabbling in some simple photography.   I did what I wanted and I pursued goals, with mostly just me, in mind. I was able to come and go whenever I felt like it and if I didn’t feel like doing something, I didn’t.

The day you entered my world, that changed forever. I now have a piece (well… two…) of my own self walking around, making decisions, and needing love and care. Loving you is the easy part, I will always do that. However, navigating the world… and still being “Melissa” is such a fine line and balance that I work to keep everyday. Don’t get me wrong, being a mom is an incredibly wonderful and important job and I love watching your eyes light up and listening to your stories, but I also want you to see and understand that while being a mom is a job I do adore, that I too, still need to be me. I need to grow as a person, have time to further develop my interests… not just for me… but as an example to you.  Luckily I still love to, and get to, decorate and design, photograph (now with you included), and teach… but in a slightly different way.

You do not ever have to be defined — you simply never have to just ‘daughter’, ‘mom’, ‘doctor’, ‘reader’, ‘photographer’… but instead you can be all of those. You, my dear, have one life to live… and YOU are special and put on this earth for a reason, many reasons. Always look and watch for the next ‘reason’ to fall into your path.

love mom

Next, visit my dear friend Kellie and read her letter to her daughter…

Letters to Our Daughters- September 2013

Blog Circles… what can I say? I love them.  Beginning this month I am starting a second circle with a smaller group . . . this circle is for our daughters.
My wonderful friends and I  are writing letters — letters to express our love, talk through our struggles, and create a memory for our daughters.
When this year is complete with these special ladies, I plan to do the same for my little man.

dear

In these past two months, as we prepare to send you to preschool, I have simply watched you.    I have observed the way you interact with Owen, Daddy, strangers.   Once shy, you have come so far out of your shell.  You are caring, thoughtful, and strong willed.   The growth in your language, demeanor, looks… it’s all so different so suddenly.  You can now relate to me, help with Owen, and rationalize situations.   The baby I brought home has become a child. Your old soul, helpfulness, and honesty are such a blessing to our family. You understand far more than I ever realized you would just 4 years ago when joined our family and made me a mommy. You comprehend and tell jokes, can help me fool Owen when he isn’t cooperating, dance in the car with me — as well as remember & decipher lyrics (which I now realize I need to watch carefully what I am listening to).   A friend that I can go out for a  ’girls day’  with, hold a conversation, but still simply snuggle with, too.  I look forward to this glimpse into our future together.  While I realize it will not always be this easy with you and that tough times in our relationship could be ahead, I am so incredibly thankful for the thoughtful, helpful and beautiful daughter you have grown to be so far.

With the changes that have happened, you have become more than a daughter – so quickly – you have become my friend.

I won’t lie, I have shed a few quiet tears as your personality slowly emerges– saying hello to the wonderful little girl you are becoming and bidding adieu to the baby years.  We just started this adventure together (or so it seems) how can it already be so far into it…?

love mom

 

Please check out my very good friend Dani Vest and the letter she wrote to her sweet little girl Isla.