What Makes a Good Breastfeeding Chair?

A good breastfeeding chair is simply a chair made for both the mother and baby which lets the mother do her work without disturbing her sleeping baby. It is easy for her to stand without disturbing her baby: Given below are some things to consider before buying the best breastfeeding chair

What Makes a Good Breastfeeding Chair?

Readily comfortable

The breastfeeding chair that you are planning to but must be comfortable in nature for both the mother and baby. With the best breastfeeding chair, you can even think of spending the whole night with your little baby of nursing him. Although, it will be difficult for you to do the same in the chair which is uncomfortable.

The coziness is something the choosiest option in anyone’s life but the mother sacrifices a lot and step out of her comfort zone and give up on style for her baby. But the breastfeeding chair can be the best gift for the soon – to be a mother. It is important to keep in mind that you have to throw out this chair after some years when your baby will grow, so you have to but a chair which is both comfortable and affordable to your budget and also suits your style. Your chair must be durable in nature so that you can use it for a long period of time.

Enough support

The best breastfeeding chair is only considered as best if it allows you to get up easily from the chair when you are done nursing him without disturbing your baby to wake up. The chair must be soft and cozy but not too much as it will retain you from standing up and leaving aside your comfort zone. The big chair can also be disturbing for you and your baby as it makes it difficult for you to get up without getting your body too much shake.

The chair must be adjustable and can be stored easily in any corner of your room so that you can rest on it with your baby while watching TV or while doing something else. The breastfeeding chair must also be relining in a chair so that it becomes easy for you to fit it anywhere in your house; either in your garden or on your roof and must be portable so that you can take it wherever you want to.

Padded armrests

Before ordering a breastfeeding chair, you must look at whether it has padded armrests or not. The best breastfeeding chair consists of the supportive armrests where the mother can rest her arm while holding her baby on the chair. Babies are little heavy to hold on and it can also let your arms to sleep and you might not be able to feel your hands after sometime.

So look for the breastfeeding chair which helps you in resting of your arms on it and it must ensure you with good latch which is easy to manage. After your hands, you may also need to rest your legs, then for shorter legs, the footrest is also another feature available in the best breastfeeding chair. And if you are short in height, then it is obvious that you will take the whole seat in deep to get settle and rest on it, so the footrest will help you in getting up easily without much shaking your body.

What Makes a Good Breastfeeding Chair?

Highly safe

It is important for every breastfeeding chair to take steps in preventing any accidents and there are chances of getting hurt by it. There is a history of getting your fingers or toes pinched behind the legs of the chair and to prevent such injury you must use the glider while sitting on the chair. The gliders you are using must have the locking system in it that allows your chair not to glide when you are not using it. And you must make sure that the gears and encased must not come in reach to your baby.

The recliners present in your chair can also be harmful to your baby; if you have let the footstool up while you are not using the breastfeeding chair and when you are putting it back make sure that there is nothing beneath the space. The best breastfeeding chair is easy to clean and maintain the chair and it is stain resistant and can easily remove the dirt and dust from it with a washable cloth.

Staying power

It is obvious that you will not be using your breastfeeding chair after your baby grows up so it does not mean that it should not be durable in nature. It must allow you to use it for a long time and you must also but it for the purpose of other things as well so that you can utilize it afterward also. You can use it as a rest chair also after doing the entire household chore or if your grown-up baby wants to use it for sit and study.

The chair can also be used for entertainment purposes also such as playing the musical chair. Or another option is that you can give it to the other mother for using it as a breastfeeding chair only. So, it is recommended that you buy the best breastfeeding chair which is less cute in design and can be used later on for many other purposes.


The breastfeeding chair is considered to be good only if it allows the mother to nurse her baby without disturbing his sleep. The best breastfeeding chair is not soft or too big in size that it becomes difficult for the mother to stand up without making her baby wake up. The chair also consists of comfortable pillows. We highly hope that this article will definitely help you in getting the best breastfeeding chair that you were looking for a long time and let your little princess sleep for a long time while you are resting with him too.

What Are 10 Items in a First Aid Kit?


First aid kits for babies should be always kept at home, in a bag when travelling and in your vehicles which is very necessary and it will be like over prepared but this will help you a lot in the emergency situation. In that best baby first aid kit, you should have a phone number of your paediatrician, poison controller, number of your pharmacy and health insurance carrier in that also a patient’s health insurance information form in that kit. In addition to it oral and rectal thermometer, kids pain reliever, small bandage, antiseptics for cleaning the wounds, antibacterial creams or wipes, syrup, an extra supplies of medications which will be taken by your children on daily basis like sunscreen lotions etc. should be there. Where rectal thermometer gives an accurate temperature reading where oral thermometer can be used for older kids.

If it comes to babies, nothing will be scarier than facing an emergency situation when they get injury. New parent or child caregivers will be assisted to take care the child but the true fact is they can’t keep the child safe all the times and some point the situation will come, where they can help out the injured child with the help of first aid kit. To keep this fear in control, you can buy a complete first aid kit for babies. If you have a first aid kit with necessary items then your stress will be reduced.

What should first aid kit needed to include

Well stocked first aid kits should be kept in place where it can be reach easily. By having right supplies on time in home, car and in travel bag will help you to handle the emergency situation even you are in a vacation with your family. You can buy these first aid kit in a drug store or in a hospital. Or else it can be done on your own if you are making one then use containers which will be generous, powerful, simple to carry which can be opened easily. Plastic containers or tackle box for storing the art supplies are good because it will be in light in weight, easy to carry, it will have handles and offer you a lot of space with separate section.

  • Up to date first aid manual for reference.
  • A list of emergency phone numbers like paediatricians, pharmacy number etc.
  • Different sizes of sterile gauze pads.
  • Adhesive tapes.
  • Adhesive bandages in various sizes.
  • Antiseptic wipes or creams.
  • Antibiotic ointment.
  • Antiseptic solution to clean.
  • Hydrocortisone cream which is 1%.
  • Acetaminophen and ibuprofen.
  • Extra medication or prescription of medicines.
  • Tweezers and sharp scissors.
  • Safety pins.
  • Instant cold pack which is Disposable.
  • Calamine lotion.
  • Ethyl alcohol wipes.
  • Prevention kit for teeth.
  • At least 2 pairs of Non latex gloves.
  • Flashlights and extra batteries.
  • Blanket and mouthpiece for giving CPR.

How to use the things which is in your kits

After storing all the first aid things in the kit, you need to read first aid manual so you will understand how to use the things which is in your kits. Read the manual time to time to check whether your kit is up to date. Store all the first aid kits out of kids to reach but keep where the person can take easily. Check the kit on regular basis and replace the missing items in it or if anything got expired. Always make sure that your baby sitter or care taker know where the kit is placed and how to use it, so it will be easy if there is any emergency. If you are travelling in plane always make sure you carry the first aid kit in the checked luggage because many of the items are not allowed to carry in the hand.

Therefore, having the first aid will help to avoid the worst situation or condition in the emergency time also you can make best baby first aid kit on your own by basic things and medications to prevent your babies from suffering because in general babies will fall down or hit in something and get wound so you can avoid the worst conditions for them by using the first aid kits.

DIY Way to Display Vacation Memories


This summer had a few fun family adventures and location visits. I’m an avid collector of sand, shells, and anything natural that reminds me of the location. I usually keep a little jar filled with a bit of sand, from each trip, but I had the urge to do something different this summer.

As we bring summer vacations to a slow close, I wanted to create something to display the sand/natural elements WITH a picture.  After checking out Pinterest for quite awhile and not finding what I wanted, I decided to go to the craft store to see if that helped spur a creative idea… and it did!

The materials I gathered:

Wood Blocks
4×4 prints
White Paint: Martha Stewart White, Statin
Gold Paint: Martha Steward Gold, Metallic
Jar of Beads
Paint Brushes
Mod Podge
Glue Gun (I already had this)


Step 1: Empty the beads from the container (my daughter was thrilled because I gave them all to her).


Step 2: Paint the lid. Next time, I’d go with lighter coats, but more. I took the quick path and put too much on which made it get a bit lumpier than I’d like.


Step 3: Fill the vial up with sand and paint the wood block white (I also considered staining it with a deep wood stain which would have been good for a rustic feeling!)



Step 4: Choose your which 4×4 print you’d like to use. Paint on a light coat of Mod Podge and adhere to the wood. I placed it a bit higher than center.


Step 5: Print out a page with the location, month, year, etc. Anything you’d like to use as a title for your finished piece. I printed this in 3 different sizes since I wasn’t sure which would work out best after cutting it out. Using a paper cutter kept the lines  nice and straight (I’m terrible with scissors and knew that would turn out less than ideal!).


Step 6: Adhere the cut piece of paper in the same way as the picture, by painting a VERY light coat of Mod Podge on the back.


Step 7: Again, using a light hand, paint Mod Podge over the entire cover of the wood block.  It will appear cloudy at first, which will fade as it dries. Be extra careful when painting over the printer paper as it will may bubble. Attempting to smooth this down with your finger will dirty it up, so continue to use the brush, softly. As it dries some of the bubbles will disappear.


Step 8: After the Mod Podge has dried (takes 30 minutes, tops) hot glue the sandy vial (or other natural memento, like the rocks) onto the bottom of the wood display.

Voila! A unique way to remember your vacation!


I used 4- 3m strips on the back of each wood block, placed on each corner (I actually started only using two, but one of the wood blocks fell, so stick with 4!).


The options with this are quite limitless… and I’m really trying to resist the urge to continue making them with ALL of our previous vacations :).

highlights from my little man’s birthday

Shooting a ‘day in the life’ always sounds like a great idea but then I get caught up with the need to shoot every detail and by 11am I’m spent. Instead, I ditched perfection because in the end, I just want my memories. I followed my son around, though loosely, to shoot the highlights of his fourth birthday this past week. It was both fun to do and to document for him because this is the first birthday that he has been truly excited for. He understood each part of it, anticipated the actual day and planned what he’d like for presents (a submarine and a Siberian Husky Mini Hideaway Pet were high on his list). His personality has changed so much within the last six months. He went from a frustrated toddler to a little boy that understands more and is far more patient. This little love bug is an extreme cuddler and always wants to snuggle up to my face. I often have to ask for some space, haha.

For his birthday he woke to a room full of balloons (27 because 3 popped in the process of us blowing them up, though he keeps telling people 70– so we will go with 70 because that makes me a more dedicated mom, right?).  We made a few trips around town, to the pool, to the movies to see Inside Out (have you seen this? We loved it!) and he requested a specific pizza place in town for dinner. Turns out he didn’t even want pizza, he wanted to play the old school ‘PacMan’ game in the front of the restaurant. I don’t think he even took one bite of pizza but we brought along a bag full of quarters for him to play the game (we usually let him think he’s playing, but this time he got to kill himself over and over again for $.25 at a time).  He believed that when he ran into the little goblin things that he was winning. He won. Over and over again.

We finished up his birthday by singing him ‘Jingle Bells’, at his request, instead of ‘Happy Birthday’ while he blew out his candles. My parents were there and my in laws FaceTimed us for the candle blowing and we sang the best rendition of ‘Jingle Bells’ we could. I even made the announcement that he is a big brother because of the sweet little baby I’m growing in my tummy!

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So You Wanna Learn Your Camera Modes…

Welcome to Post 3 in the “So You Wanna…” series.

Missed the first two posts?
Post 1 – Purchasing A Camera
Post 2- Purchasing A Lens


Here’s where we get to it and you need to really need to read and practice.  You’ve got your camera, you’ve got a lens.  Now… we have to talk about actual photography and images.  This post is going to have lots of external links because this is a loaded topic and one that will take time and, perhaps, more information than just this post can provide.  I’m absolutely giving you the bare minimum and going fast through big topics – but there are A LOT of resources in this post and I’d recommend going through each one and taking your time.  Feel free to ask questions in the comments or email me if you have something you can’t figure out ([email protected]). Others may be having the same issue and I can add more to this post!

We can’t talk about the camera without talking first about EXPOSURE and what that is.  Exposure, in it’s simplest terms, refers to the brightness or darkness in an image.  Too bright? Just right? Too dark?

This image, below, is overexposed.  There are “blown” areas which are too bright and have lost detail.MAS0977(pp_w935_h622)

This image is properly exposed.  His skin has detail and none of the areas are pure black.


This image is too dark. There are “clipped” areas which are too dark and have lost detail.


There are exceptions.   Typically (and this is overgeneralizing and open for interpretation) you want the skin to be properly exposed.  That’s the most important portion of an image.  Bright areas can often be “blown” and in a case like this, it’s considered “correct”.  This image also has lots of very dark areas that are “clipped” and too dark.  However, it still works.


Notice how I’m using quotes around the word “correct”.  There is a lot of room for judgment in photography.  Photography is a creative exercise and you are expressing your vision.  However, learning all of the rules and getting things “correct”, first, is important.  To consciously make your decisions about each image and know why you did something (not just convincing yourself you did something on purpose… which I have done!) is the ultimate goal.  This takes practice.  Lots.  I’m still learning.  I will ALWAYS be learning.  The hardest part is allowing yourself to feel the frustration and then walking away from the camera for a bit and coming back refreshed.

Ok – so now that I’ve explained exposure… how in the world do we make the decisions? How does one get an image from their mind into their camera?   You change, create, and fix exposure using three items – Aperture, & Shutter Speed, ISO.

First we will discuss Aperture. We talked for a minute about aperture back when we were discussing lenses.  The lower the number the more wide open and more light you can get into your camera.  This is a good thing.  Think of it like a pupil – to let more light in you want a wide open pupil.  On a sunny day when you need less light you want a smaller pupil.

When you buy a lens that can go to f/1.8, f/2.0, f/2.8 you can let in more light because the opening is larger- even though the number is smaller.  Alternatively, if you use a smaller aperture (larger number f/5.6, f/11 and higher) you will let less light into your lens – imagine a smaller pupil. I know it seems backwards… you’d think that a higher number would equal more light, but alas, it’s not.

To recap ….

LARGE pupil for lots of light – aperture opening f/1.8, f/2.0, f/2.8
SMALL pupil for a little bit of light- aperture opening f/5.6, f/11
(remember our lens discuss… most kit lenses that come with cameras have apertures that start at f/4.0 or f/5.6…)

Aperture is the reason that I ended up picking up a camera.  I love the look  of a beautifully blurry background… and this is how you achieve that background.  The post, “Aperture- The Basics” on Click It Up A Notch does a fabulous job of explaining this concept.

Here’s my trusty uninterested assistant… Make a note: when my aperture changes, my other settings change, too (more on this in a moment)

Image Below is at f/1.8 (notice the blurriness behind her) Other image settings Shutter Speed 1/250  ISO 200


Image Below is at f/5.6 (less blurry behind her) — Other image settings Shutter Speed 1/125  ISO 1600


Image Below is at f/11 (even less blurry behind her) — Other image settings Shutter Speed 1/125  ISO 4000


Next up is Shutter Speed.  This is most important when you have a moving subject.  If your image is blurry, shutter speed is most often the culprit.  When the kids are moving around I need a fast shutter speed to freeze their action.  Slow shutter speeds are used to show intentional movement, like in this post on Clickin Moms, Slow Shutter Speed by Allison Zercher.  When I am hand holding my camera I typically keep my shutter speed at 1/125 of a second (will show as 125 on the camera) or faster (1/250, 1/400, and up).  If I go below 1/125 of a second there will absolutely be camera shake from my hands and the image will be blurry.  If my subject is moving at all, I try to keep my shutter speed at around 1/400 of a second and faster.

The image below is shot at shutter speed 1/30 of a second — other settings aperture f/10 ISO200



The image below is shot at shutter speed 1/400 of a second — other settings aperture f/2.2 ISO400


Finally there is ISO.  For whatever reason this was the hardest concept for me to wrap my head around.  I confused it with a pixelated image (which just means that the image isn’t big enough).  ISO is the little bits of grain in an image and goes back to the film shooting days.  Film is purchased by the ISO (also referred to as ASA) rating.  A rating of around 800 or 1600 was usually for indoors whereas you’d use 200 or 400 for outdoors.  You can set the ISO in your camera and it serves as a cushion when you don’t want your shutter speed to be slower or your aperture to be any more open.  In return, it introduces more and more grain as the number getting higher (and digital cameras can go high!) Here is a post from Click It Up A Notch demonstrating ISO even more.

Minimal Noise (cooresponds with Low ISO)


Lots of Noise (cooresponds with High ISO)

So now that we know what everything IS… how can we use ISO, Aperture, and Shutter Speed to create an image? These three are called “The Exposure Triangle“.  All of them have to work together to create an image in your camera.  Cameras have a lot of bells and whistles – but really it all comes down to these three things and how they work together.

So let’s talk about your camera modes, now (don’t confuse these with “Manual and Auto” on your lens – keep that one Auto, especially for now!).


Automatic (could be a green square… or “Auto” on cameras)
PROS: Automatic mode chooses everything for you – the ISO, the Aperture, the Shutter Speed.  It surveys the scene and makes it’s best guess.  You are able to set it and forget it.
CONS:   This can leave you frustrated because your control is minimal.

Aperture Priority (also called Av & A on cameras)
PROS: Aperture Priority allows you to choose your Aperture setting keeping control over how much blur behind your subject exists.  The camera will choose your ISO and Shutter Speed.  This is great when you want a blurry background (apertures like f/1.8, f/2.8) or you choose to have everything in sharp focus (apertures such as f/11).
CONS: You aren’t controlling your shutter speed and can often end up with blurry images because your shutter speed is too slow.

Shutter Priority (also called Tv & S on cameras)
PROS: Shutter Priority allows you to choose the Shutter Speed.  The camera will choose your ISO and Aperture.  This is great for sports or freezing motion.
CONS: The camera may give you a very high ISO or an aperture that isn’t quite what you would have chosen.

Manual (also called M on cameras)
PROS: Manual allows you to choose the Shutter Speed, the ISO, and the Aperture so you have complete control over your image and making it just as you want it.
CONS: You have to understand how everything works together and be able to switch things up quickly, sometimes.

So you know what the terms mean, you know what the modes mean.  How do you put them into action? Read your camera manual to learn how to change your ISO, Shutter Speed, and Aperture.  You can often even set-up special buttons to allow you to do it faster than going into your menu, too.

I shoot in manual mode – all the time, though I suggest starting in Aperture Priority.  This will help you to assess how the other settings change when you change your aperture.  I can honestly say that I haven’t ever worked in Shutter Priority – but my kids aren’t in sports yet and I usually shoot when they aren’t moving and running around so I’ve never really needed it.  I jumped in head first back in 2009 and went straight to manual mode while learning the concepts.  My first few pictures were black. Totally black.  I had no idea how to make them not black.  I’m going to cover shooting in Manual in another post, however.  Here is a hint if you want to get started on shooting in manual. When you looking into your viewfinder, you will see some dashes. That’s your meter. Your goal is for your meter to be in the center.  Again, more on that in the next post.

I learned how to achieve proper exposure and how to understand how ISO, Aperture, and Shutter Speed work together by reading the book, “Understanding Exposure” by Bryan Peterson.  It’s an amazing first step and he explains everything with images, shares settings and I found it to be so comprehensive.

Need more and want to be held accountable? Try Amy Lucy Lockheart’s 3 week workshop, “First Steps With A DSLR“.  I am slightly biased because Amy was and is my own mentor.  Her work is gorgeous and she is a wonderful teacher. If you haven’t taken a workshop with Clickin Moms before, I highly recommend them because they are thorough, you get regular feedback and you work with a group of women learning the same thing as you.  You certainly can learn on your own, but man, if you can swing it… I learned so much faster with a dedicated teacher.

the remarkable everyday… christmas preparations…

We are busy gearing up for Christmas and between holiday shows, our Elf ‘Buddy’ and my workshop wrapping up I’ve been busy! Today I edited 2 weeks worth of my 365 images.  I’m taking them… Oh… I’m taking them.  I have a lot of images.  I haven’t gotten them together to post, though… until today.  I know as 2014 begins I will have much more time on my hands.

So… I love white Christmas lights. I think they make a Christmas tree look incredibly classy and beautiful.  However, I remember the magic of coming out of my bedroom on Christmas morning and gazing at an amazingly colorful Christmas tree and my childhood heart fell in love, every year.  We had a really wonderful (though difficult for my mom) tradition.  Her and my dad would put our tree up on Christmas Eve.  They got the lights on (which was often frustrating as one string would always go out… or all of them…).  Following the tree, we’d head to church only to come home and admire the shining and colorful tree some more.  We were whisked to bed not long after, with a few of the hundreds of chocolate chip cookies made, in our bellies.  Santa, that night, would decorate the tree to perfection.  What a magical experience that was to wake up to.  All of our cherished ornaments, the twinkling garland and angel on top with bundles of wrapped gifts beneath. This was my favorite Christmas tradition… and while I don’t wait until Christmas Eve (mostly because I know how stressed out my mom and dad would end up on Christmas Eve orchestrating all of it) I am holding tight on the colored lights, for my babies.  To experience the colorful childhood that I remember.  We even mixed tiny bulbs and big bulbs this year.  One day they won’t care any more and I can class up this tree to my heart’s content.

Click Away…. (Post 1)

Look at me… about to get super wordy again.  Two blog posts in a row!! How do I sum up my 5 day experience at Click Away? It’s taken me a week to fully think through this experience and put it into words.  Finally, after years of growing, learning and working with the amazing women of Clickin Moms I came to meet the very same girls that I interact with on a daily basis.  We’ve shared more than photography – we share our lives and this forum is a safe place… a haven.  I was a bundle of nerves.  Leaving my babies in their first few weeks of school, handing my responsibilities over to, luckily, trusting and loving grandparents.  My husband was so very busy at work and was only able to help take on the chauffeuring, grooming, loving and feeding responsibilities sparatically.  To say I’m thankful for a family that will allow me to go off on an adventure with the peace of mind that the kids are ok, is an understatement.

So I show up at Click Away and immediately, I mean IMMEDIATELY begin hugging people like we have met a million times in the past.  There’s simply a warm love between us that required zero ‘warming-up’.  It was a run and hug type of event that lasted through the entire five days in Salt Lake City.  I would eye someone that I ‘knew’ from across the room only to RUN and hug like long lost friends.  Multiple times per day.  I worked the registration desk – voluntarily – we had ‘staffing’ times, but when I was free I hurried to that desk as my own sort of mecca to chat, talk, interact and connect.  Connect I did.  I came home with new friends.  Most everyone was enormously friendly and opening.  I ate dinner with a new group of ladies every single evening and laughed until my sides hurt each evening.  I was even whisked away on a college-esque adventure the last evening.

Here are a couple of iPhone shots…

I was also pushed.  Pushed out of my comfort zone, nudged, thrown… if you will.  I’m a teacher by nature, I’m comfortable speaking in front of people – but filming me… with visual proof to remember my every move… yikes.  I’m not going to lie I almost didn’t leave my hotel room on Thursday morning for the body wrenching fear I was experiencing.  The filming was coming and what if I have no idea what I’m doing…. what if I fall… what if no one shows… what if… what if… what the flip if…. I was scared.  I picked myself up – got dressed and headed out the door.  I did it.  I did not let my deep seated fear hold me back (with a few phone calls to my husband and mom in between).

Here are some images from my filmed sessions, “When the Golden Hour Isn’t Practical“.  (This is available for purchasing and watching by clicking the link!) We shot around the convention center  starting at 1:45pm in the afternoon.  Finding light that will work in mid-day sun is a challenge, for sure!  In true Melissa fashion, I was so busy chatting with the 50 participants following me around about the light that in some shots I, ahem, didn’t watch or warn my subjects that I was taking a shot all of the time ;).  My mind wasn’t 100% behind the camera like it is at a regular shoot (without an audience!) – my nerves wore off quickly, but my head was focused on the filming and the participants.  It was quite the juggling act.  I’m going to show all of these images with a brief explanation of what my ‘goal’ was with the light… but know these are far from ‘perfect’ or ideal;)

Below is an example of when I needed my stool that I always have… I would have been more above them and shooting down avoiding any bright light.  This is what I got while making it work at 5 feet 1 inches tall;)

Ordinarily, there wouldn’t be 50 people in the reflection!!!

This shot, below, ended up as a happy accident.  Behind them is a wall – and I was showing how it wouldn’t work because their skin is so much darker than the wall.  Turns out, it acted much more like a bright window and I was able to completely blow out the background, isolating them!

I spy a member of the film crew!

Here is another example of a shot that I desperately needed my stool to get up above them and cut out the bright spots behind when using this small patch of light!

One of the big lessons I learned is that while I’m a photographer… I’m so much more of a ‘connector’.  I had a hard time shooting throughout this whole trip.  At first, I was so sad I wasn’t coming up with amazing images of the locations and people in the evening, during the golden hour, etc.  However, when I thought further, I was having an amazing time connecting, chatting, LAUGHING.  I photograph to show connections between people, but only when I am quiet and an observer.  I didn’t want to observe here, I wanted to connect.  And connect I did.  I made a LOT of time to take some posed selfies with amazing women!

I went on a selfie rampage during my ‘connecting’ and forced myself to take some shot with just some of the amazing women I had the opportunity to meet and chat with!

letters to our daughters – may

This is my eighth month writing letters to Abby…
My wonderful friends and I  are writing letters — letters to express our love, talk through our struggles, and create a memory for our daughters.

Check out previous month’s letters

Please visit my friend, Sarah, next, and read her May letter to her sweet daughter


Time is moving at an alarming rate.  April and May have been so incredibly busy and I have found myself going through an entire day without sitting to just spend time with you.  That’s something I’m forcing from this day on – no matter how many projects I have going on, to just simply be with you.  This is your last week of preschool and I’m not quite sure how we are here already.  Your ‘final’ bulletin board went up outside your classroom, announcing your school for next year.  I got teared up and even telling Daddy about it, tears came to my eyes.  You are scared, you’ve told me.  You haven’t said it in those words, but you’ve mentioned that you’d rather not “learn to read” and to stay at school with your teachers and friends… there were a few tears involved.   However, it’s time for the next step.  Just a few short months away and you will begin Kindergarten.  A little fish in a big school.  I’m going to have to pull out my bravest face because I will most certainly be an emotional mama.  You are ready, sweetiepie.  Completely ready.

love mom




letters to our daughters – april

This is my seventh month writing letters to Abby…
My wonderful friends and I  are writing letters — letters to express our love, talk through our struggles, and create a memory for our daughters.

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Please visit my friend, Kellie, next, and read her April letter to her sweet daughter


Every single month you are growing and changing at an enormous rate.  This month, you have decided that you would like to dress yourself.  On Saturday morning you came rushing in, completely dressed, announcing that “TODAY IS A YELLOW DAY!”  The ‘pattern’ day was one of your more interesting ones, for sure.  You claim that you feel like “such a big girl” when you do this.

Slowly, you are becoming a kid instead of a small child.  There are many days that you sit on the couch and draw for hours.  The drawings are so incredibly intricate and every detail is just so.  My pens have been disappearing at an alarming rate and we have come across piles of them in your baskets.  Pen, marker, paint and glue are constantly covering your hands and there is typically some sort of color on your cheek or nose from a marker that got loose.

love mom


letters to our daughters- january 2014

This is my fourth month of writing letters to Abby…
My wonderful friends and I  are writing letters — letters to express our love, talk through our struggles, and create a memory for our daughters.

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I need you to know, and want you to know, that I am thankful for you every single day of your life. Being a mom is tough sometimes, and while you may understand this if you decide to have children, it’s impossible to fully understand until you conceive your first baby. See, before you, I was Melissa.  I liked to decorate and design, was an elementary school teacher, and enjoyed dabbling in some simple photography.   I did what I wanted and I pursued goals, with mostly just me, in mind. I was able to come and go whenever I felt like it and if I didn’t feel like doing something, I didn’t.

The day you entered my world, that changed forever. I now have a piece (well… two…) of my own self walking around, making decisions, and needing love and care. Loving you is the easy part, I will always do that. However, navigating the world… and still being “Melissa” is such a fine line and balance that I work to keep everyday. Don’t get me wrong, being a mom is an incredibly wonderful and important job and I love watching your eyes light up and listening to your stories, but I also want you to see and understand that while being a mom is a job I do adore, that I too, still need to be me. I need to grow as a person, have time to further develop my interests… not just for me… but as an example to you.  Luckily I still love to, and get to, decorate and design, photograph (now with you included), and teach… but in a slightly different way.

You do not ever have to be defined — you simply never have to just ‘daughter’, ‘mom’, ‘doctor’, ‘reader’, ‘photographer’… but instead you can be all of those. You, my dear, have one life to live… and YOU are special and put on this earth for a reason, many reasons. Always look and watch for the next ‘reason’ to fall into your path.

love mom

Next, visit my dear friend Kellie and read her letter to her daughter…